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Ignore your inner defense attorney!


My friend Paul Tripp writes that becoming our own defense attorney is a dangerous and destructive practice. In less formal language Paul is warning about becoming an excuse maker. These are the words of a defense attorney in action:


• “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to be angry.” • “I guess I’m just tired.” • “He was mean to me.” • “If you were just a little nicer, it would be a lot easier.” • “Being inside because of the weather makes me cranky.” • “It wasn’t my fault, I’m just not feeling well.”


Whether these words come from you or your children they are the words of excuse making, defending ourselves from our own shortcomings and sins.


Excuse making keeps us from trusting God, erodes relationships and weakens our character and faith. The default mode for the excuse maker is to shift blame instead of looking to God in repentance. Excuse making is evidence of regret over sins. Excuse making is a way to conceal sin.


The Holy Spirit warns against concealing sin in Proverbs 28:13:

He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.