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  • Commanding your children to praise God

    Parents have no problem instructing their children to obey quickly or to be kind to others. There is no dispute about teaching children that they should not hit each other or that they should respect authority.  But what about commanding your children to praise God? Does that seem a bit unusual? Let’s think about this for a moment. The command praise God is not just about saying the words praise God. Psalm 78 exhorts Israel not to hide the praiseworthy deeds of God from their children. As ...
  • Do you listen to your children, or to yourself?

    “Hey mom, Jeremy is upset.” “Okay Sarah, I’ll be right there.” The real story here is what mom is saying to herself in her mind. “Here we go again. Sarah is always making Jeremy upset. I can’t finish anything without somebody having an issue. I’ll get to it in a moment.” “Dad, I’m really sorry I messed up and forgot to cut the grass. I’ll get to it right after lunch. Sorry dad.” “Aaron, when is this pattern going to change? You need to start being responsible. ...
  • Consequences or love of God

    What motivates your teenager? It is no secret teenagers face powerful temptations.  Parents want to make sure that consequences are in place to help protect their children. It is good to put deterrents in place for behavior that is unacceptable and sinful. But, for your teenager, still it comes down to that moment of decision; is the consequence enough to make a difference? For example, Kevin, a young teenage boy has an opportunity to be alone with Tiffany, a girl with a reputation for being ...
  • What to tell your children about troubling times.

    Today’s news is unsettling. There remain concerns about ebola. The financial markets are in continuing turmoil. There are terror attacks in Canada. People are talking, your children are listening. What do you tell them? What you and your children need to hear is that God is the place of safety no matter how challenging the circumstance. Note carefully the strength of the language in Psalm 46. Even though the ground gives way and mountains fall into the sea, God is your refuge. The Holy ...
  • Instructing a Child’s Heart

    "Instructing a Child’s Heart is the perfect resource to begin building a biblical worldview for your family." —Jay
  • Teenagers, Frustrations, and Short Answers

    You observe your teenager talking a mile-a-minute with friends. Then you think about the typical conversations that you have had with your son or daughter. Instead of a lively back and forth your attempts at conversation tend to collapse into strained monosyllables.: Did you have a good day? Sort of. How was your test? Okay. Do you have homework? Maybe. Do you have plans this weekend? Not sure. Is anything bothering you? No. Did you clean your room? Not yet. I thought maybe we could talk later ...
  • Mommy, There is Something Scary in the Closet!

    [dropcap size="50px"]W[/dropcap]hether you are a toddler, middle schooler, teenager or an adult you know what it means to be afraid. Fear is one of the consequences of the fall. Thus, the question is not if your children will fear, but what do they fear. If you don’t know what fears your children have, you won’t be able to adequately address the concerns of their hearts. This requires that you have an intimate understanding of the way your child views his world. It doesn’t matter how old ...
  • Dads: to control or to serve, you can’t do both

    [dropcap size="50px"]A[/dropcap]ttempting to control the lives of other people is to live the life of a fool. Only God is in control. Humans who ignore this truth are in deep trouble. Dictators may look like they have control, but then it is lost in a heartbeat. Others try to control by kindness or deference, these leaders too, can be overcome with swiftness. Simply put, control doesn’t work. Controlling people is not an effective form of leadership. Sadly, too many fathers believe that ...
  • Discipline is about Loving God, Not Being Hurt

    Parents, when your children sin and they are not respectful to you, how do you want to respond? If you make the matter primarily a personal offense against yourself and respond in anger and frustration, you will do what any ordinary parent might do. You might get angry at them. You might just let your children know how painful this is for you. You might yell. You might walk around in silent pain. You might tell your kids they have gone too far this time. All these responses would be ordinary ...