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  • Love or angry thoughts, it’s a control thing

    “Why did I say that? I love my kids.” “I so sorry I said that, I didn’t mean it” “He makes so angry, I can’t stop thinking about it.” Sound familiar? These statements indicate a control problem, but maybe not in the way you are thinking. You see, it is not about you being in control. Rather, it is about whom you choose to be in control of your life. In Galatians 5 Paul tells you to walk by the Spirit, so that you will not gratify the desires of your flesh. If you desire the ...
  • Heaven: The Ultimate Gift

      This is the season of gifts. From Thanksgiving to Christmas giving gifts dominates much of our lives. If no gifts were given many businesses would fail, many hearts would be broken, many faces would be sad. God made us to be gift givers. We are made in his image and he is the greatest gift giver of all. Last night, as I was driving home around 10:30, the sky was clear. I turned south onto a road that cuts across a large open field. Low in the southeastern sky was a magnificent moon ...
  • Trusting Christ in the mess of life

    Being a parent is a consuming vocation. The unexpected and unplanned for circumstances just seem to keep on coming. In this mess, Christ can become distant, your life experience resembles being drawn into a swirling vortex. In Psalm 73, the psalmist had become overwhelmed with the seeming futility of following God. Survival mode had become his norm. He, too, was caught in the vortex. He, too, was thinking, I just can’t do this anymore. But here is the reality that the crush of daily life can ...
  • The myth of the self-reliant parent

    Sometimes we actually think we are smart enough to take care of ourselves. Really?!? If you are alive at the end of this day it will be because God has determined that you should still be breathing. Sound simplistic? This was the truth that Paul spoke in Athens to the intellectual giants of his day. This is not simplistic, but the most important reality that can be known. All men are totally dependent upon the mercy and plan of God, whether they acknowledge this truth or not. Humbly live ...
  • Angry Parents, Angry Children

      Human anger must not characterize your discipline. If it does, you have made discipline about satisfying your requirements. As a parent you are granted authority to enforce God’s commands, not your own preferences. Your authority is derived, not earned. Human anger and biblical discipline do not mix. Man’s anger will not bring about the righteous life that God desires. (James 1:20) The key phrase is the righteous life that God desires. God did not give you your children so that you ...
  • Love – it’s not about you!

      Your flesh tempts you to think love is something that is designed to make you happy, to make you feel good. Yes, it is wonderful when others love us. But you must not live live for those moments. Biblically, love is dying to what you want and living for what brings honor to God. In love, Jesus did not keep his life, but gave it up for you. Paul tells us three things that are not love. Love does not envy. Love does not boast. Love is not proud. I Corinthians 13:4 Envy has a particula...
  • Love is patient

    Patience is often referred to as something that can be lost – as in “you are really causing me to lose my patience.” But how would it sound if you were to say “you are really causing me to lose my love for you?” If love is patient, then “losing” patience can be equated to losing love. Said this way the idea of losing patience is not a pretty one. A working definition of patience is living in the expectation of God’s care. Patience is part of the Spirit’s fruit. Patience is ...
  • Love is kind

    It is easy to show kindness when your children are respectful and obey quickly with a smile. It is easy to show kindness when they clean the living room without being told. But when they are disrespectful and make a mess instead, being kind seldom enters our minds. But think about this. Suppose God chose to follow our example when he disciplines us for our sinful behavior?  I don’t know about you, but that is a thought that terrifies me. Being kind does not mean you don’t discipline or ...
  • Drug abuse – what to look for

      Proverbs 18:15 teaches that the ears of the wise seek out knowledge. In other words, not everything that you need to know as a parent will be handed to you on a silver platter, wrapped in a bright warning label that says “Danger, check this out.” Sometimes the warning signs are subtle. Thus, they can easily get lost in hectic pace of life. Teenagers just getting started with drug abuse often fit into this category. Drugs are readily available today, sometimes teenagers need only ...
  • Do you parent with wisdom from above?

    James tells the story of two kinds of wisdom. In Chapter 3:13-18, he talks about wisdom from above and contrasts it with “wisdom” that is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. Which of these two forms of wisdom characterize your parenting? How can you tell the difference? The answer is shocking and disarming. If the “wisdom” that you deploy is different that what is described in verse 17 then it is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. There is no middle ground. Honestly look at what verse 17 says ...